Sunday, April 29, 2007

Total Knee Replacement Surgery– Tomorrow!ARRRG!

Well, the days wittle down to a final few, as the September song says, and it’s almost here. Tomorrow at one I’ll be having my total knee replacement surgery. Rather late in the day for my taste; since I can’t eat or even drink liquids after midnight tonite, I was hoping the surgery would be at 8 am so that I wouldn’t have too long to get too hungry or thirsty before hand. I can’t imagine what I’ll be doing with myself until 11, when we leave for the hospital. Packing my little overnight bag, I guess, which will be mainly filled with my medication and makeup, plus the three novels I’m taking with me. Plus robe and nightshirt although I really don’t have slippers. 

I’ve bought slip on shoes but they kill my feet even when I just wear them around in the tv room at night before bed, so I can tell they wouldn’t be any good. I need something I can slip my right foot into without really having to bend my knee too much–something that slips on easily. My new runners feel great, and I can fit my inserts into them, but the top edges fold in a bit too much, needing to be sort of pulled out around my foot once it’s pushed in. They have to have a closed back, apparently, these slippers, and have to be big enough to allow for my foot’s possibly swelling after the operation. ARRG. I guess I should get dressed and go to Alexis Nihon and look for slippers.

That’s how my brain is working; it focuses on something minor and frets about it. It still seems unreal that I’m actually putting myself through all this pain and inconvenience tomorrow. I mean,  I can walk now, albeit with some pain. And the pain is going to be really bad for a while once the operation is over. I know that I’ll supposedly be pain free after everything heals, but there will be a lot of pain between now and then, and no guarantee that it will be pain free. Another act of faith, I guess, with a need for both hope and positive thinking. The problem is, it will pretty much depend on me whether or not I get full use back in my knee. I’ll be the one who has to do exercises and physical therapy, after all. And if it’s painful…..

Wish me luck, everyone. It will be a while before I get a chance to write here again.

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Sunday, April 22, 2007

A Summer Cottage in April: An Act of Faith

  “Of  course, the waterfront will look much better when there isn’t ice on the lake,” I tell my husband. We stand shivering in a few inches of melting snow and mud, facing the waters of Lake Magog, in Quebec’s Eastern Townships’ cottage country.  A cloud has just come over the sun, making the whole area seem chilly and dark. 


We have come to see the cottage we might be renting in July, three months from now, since I don’t trust photos to tell me what things look like, especially when it comes to summer rental cottages. In particular, I wanted to see if the waterfront would be suitable for our five year old grand-daughter, if it provided some place where she could paddle in shallows when she wasn’t learning to swim. 


When owners of cottages take photos they never really show this aspect. They think that showing the view from the deck is enough. In contrast, my mind drifts automatically to kids falling into great depths off wharfs. I want to know how deep the water is at the shore, and whether it is rocky, sandy or pebbly. This one seems okay. Where the ice has melted a bit near shore, we can see pebbles on the bottom. 


  My husband broods, mourning the cottage we used to rent on Lake Malagua. It has been booked for this summer since last summer, when we betrayed it by going to Nova Scotia to see relatives and enjoy the ocean for a change. Now it has no time available for us. I don’t know why he longs for it; maybe because everything was new there, three years ago, whereas today we have been looking at other cottages on other lakes, which aren’t new. Which are, in fact, quite old and dilapitated. 


  Of course, a Quebec summer cottage, seen in April, never looks its best. Having been boarded up all winter, its air is damp, musty and stale, and its furniture looks like it’s slowly decaying. It takes a real act of faith to imagine a hot summer sun shining in on that worn carpet, that dumpy sofa, that sagging bed, making it all look charmingly quaint instead of pathetic.  


 In the same way, the exterior of such a cottage never really looks inviting in mud season. One must look beyond the deep, snow-filled ruts that suggest someone else has had trouble pulling in here, past the branches scattering the grounds from winter storms, past the bare branches of the trees they fell from. One has to try to see, in the mind’s eye, the hot days under the leafy shade, on dry grass, with bees humming in the bushes that now are so skeletal.


The cottage behind us,  boarded up for the winter, looks uninviting. I note that there is at least a wooden deck, one built on the ground like a patio, with a wooden bench circling its periphery for enjoying, perhaps, a glass of wine at sunset on some seemingly remote-from-now evening in summer, when we will (I hope) be wearing sandals and feeling much warmer than we do now.  Since I will probably be stuck on this deck with a stack of books for two weeks we rent  as I recover from the total knee replacement surgery I’m having next weekend, I really want a deck with a view. It also has to be close to the water; I want to be able to see what’s happening down at the shoreline, yet still be close enough to limp into the kitchen, bedroom and bathroom. And to reach the water (assuming I’ll be able to walk at all), I don’t want to have to totter down a long, steep, stairless slope and then toil back up again, painfully. 


   Today we already have seen two cottages that would have demanded just that of my poor old knee. Both were rejected for that reason, as well as for being deep in trees, with no view of the lake. Cottage owners argue that trees provide the renters some privacy from people on the lake and are good to keep the cottage from overheating on hot days. But who wants to sit outside circled closely by trees, however cool the air might be there on a hot day? I want to  see boats going by, see hawks swooping down to get fish, see the sunset streaking a big sky. 


On this deck, at present, there is no deck furniture set out; it’s probably stowed away in the cottage itself.  So is everything else. And the door is locked. Because the elderly owner has recently had a heart attack, he has been unable to meet us here to show us the inside.


This being the Age of the Internet we have with us, of course, photos obtained  from a website. Unfortunately, I have just discovered that I mistakenly printed these photos from the wrong website, so what I hold in my hand doesn’t match what I am seeing around me. I didn’t realize that at first; I kept wondering why the brown bungalow wasn’t blue. When I figured out my mistake, I felt ridiculous. We peek in through a few windows to see what we can see: a small enclosed porch; a tiny bedroom with nice bunk bed, a patch-work quilt neatly folded at the foot of the lower bed; nothing else. Curtains are drawn over the other windows. For all I know, it could be terrible inside. 


  Still, I focus on that pristine little bedroom with its patchwork quilt.  Its neatness and the fact that the quilt looked clean and well-kept suggests the rest of the cottage will be, as well. And it looks tasteful. That’s the kind of quilt I myself would own, I think hopefully. Later we will find the correct site  online and see how the cottage really looks inside; for now, that too must be taken on faith.


 This summer money is short, especially if we will be staying at a cottage for two weeks instead of our usual one. (Most cottage owners now only rent for two week or more). We used to pay $700 a week. Now cottages run around a thousand a week and up, many without dishwashers, t.v. or decks, or even private waterfronts. I looked longingly at some of them online, the ones that at least had decks and  sandy beaches. I could so easily imagine my grand-daughter building sandcastles there while I watched. But really, two weeks would require too much money, especially since we’d also have a rental car to pay for. This cottage, amazingly, is only $850 a week, plus a hefty safety desposit. We can afford it with the help of our daughter, who has insisted on paying half.

As we stagger back to the car through the remaining snow and thick mud, I try to imagine this driveway green with summer grass, lined with summer flowers, shaded by green, leafy trees and shrubs. At the car, I turn to look back as I shake snow out of my shoes. There is a clearing behind the cottage, lightly treed. One could play badminton there, the net strung between those two trees. Not me, of course, but  everyone else. I could be sitting on that small stone patio, the one that’s now covered with broken branches and debris from winter storms, sipping coffee perhaps in a deck chair, my bandaged knee stretched out in front of me as I enjoy the sight of people leaping into the air to hit the birdie and whap it back to their opponents. Later, we will eat dinner on the front deck and watch the sunset over the lake, listening to the lap of water nearby, the sound of birdcall, the sigh of branches.

Around me, the wind blows gustily today. I get in the car. It takes faith to believe that Summer will come, eventually, just as it took faith to believe, during this past, miserable winter, that Spring would eventually come. I tell myself that I will believe that time spent here will be okay. And that I will be back at this spot in July. I hope.


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Monday, April 16, 2007

Neil Gaiman’s poem on fairy tales

Here’s a poem I heard Neil read on YouTube. It’s called “Instructions.” It’s perfect for lovers of fairytales, although I must admit that I don’t recognize some of the references. The reference to the ferryman, for example, evokes Charon, but I don’t recall a magic question and answer. Does anyone know a fairy tale that contains this kind of encounter? 




Instructions

by Neil Gaiman


Touch the wooden gate in the wall you never

saw before.

Say “please” before you open the latch,

go through,

walk down the path.

A red metal imp hangs from the green-painted

front door,

as a knocker,

do not touch it; it will bite your fingers.

Walk through the house. Take nothing. Eat

nothing.

However, if any creature tells you that it hungers,

feed it.

If it tells you that it is dirty,

clean it.

If it cries to you that it hurts,

if you can,

ease its pain.


From the back garden you will be able to see the

wild wood.

The deep well you walk past leads to Winter’s

realm;

there is another land at the bottom of it.

If you turn around here,

you can walk back, safely;

you will lose no face. I will think no less of you.


Once through the garden you will be in the

wood.

The trees are old. Eyes peer from the under-

growth.

Beneath a twisted oak sits an old woman. She

may ask for something;

give it to her. She

will point the way to the castle.

Inside it are three princesses.

Do not trust the youngest. Walk on.

In the clearing beyond the castle the twelve

months sit about a fire,

warming their feet, exchanging tales.

They may do favors for you, if you are polite.

You may pick strawberries in December’s frost.

Trust the wolves, but do not tell them where

you are going.

The river can be crossed by the ferry. The ferry-

man will take you.

(The answer to his question is this:

If he hands the oar to his passenger, he will be free to

leave the boat.

Only tell him this from a safe distance.)

If an eagle gives you a feather, keep it safe.

Remember: that giants sleep too soundly; that

witches are often betrayed by their appetites;

dragons have one soft spot, somewhere, always;

hearts can be well-hidden,

and you betray them with your tongue.


Do not be jealous of your sister.

Know that diamonds and roses

are as uncomfortable when they tumble from

one’s lips as toads and frogs:

colder, too, and sharper, and they cut.

Remember your name.

Do not lose hope — what you seek will be found.

Trust ghosts. Trust those that you have helped

to help you in their turn.

Trust dreams.

Trust your heart, and trust your story.

When you come back, return the way you came.

Favors will be returned, debts will be repaid.

Do not forget your manners.

Do not look back.

Ride the wise eagle (you shall not fall).

Ride the silver fish (you will not drown).

Ride the grey wolf (hold tightly to his fur).

There is a worm at the heart of the tower; that is

why it will not stand.

When you reach the little house, the place your

journey started,

you will recognize it, although it will seem

much smaller than you remember.

Walk up the path, and through the garden gate

you never saw before but once.

And then go home. Or make a home.

And rest.








 

 


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Friday, April 13, 2007

Herein I will praise Canada’s Medicare system

After spending the morning at St. Mary’s Hospital, here in Montreal, doing ‘pre-op’ for my upcoming total knee replacement on April 30, I’m very impressed with our medicare system.


Sure, I will have waited six months for the surgery. And yes, the hospital is a bit shabby and drab. And there were lots of people standing, waiting, for bloodtests (although there were also chairs available for those who wanted them.) However, I was served quickly and amiably as I got those tests (painlessly, I must add, since that’s not always the case with me), had an EKG, and got the knee in question X-rayed. The medical staff was polite and friendly, and made me feel like more than just a passing case.


As well, they took the time to question me,  in a tone of concern, about everything to do with the post-operative period. Did I have stairs to climb? How many? A bathroom on each floor? Who would do the cooking for me? The cleaning? Would there be someone with me at night? Since these matters had nothing to do with the actual operation, I was impressed by their foresight and kindness; it wouldn’t really reflect badly on them, after all, if my house went uncleaned while I was healing, yet they were concerned about it.


After all the tests and questions,  which took 4 hours, I was sent to an information session. I sat with eight other people who’d be having knee replacement surgery while we were informed, by various people showing us slides, about the operation itself.  And we were served free juice and muffins, which I thought was very nice of the hospital staff, especially since I had just had blood tests and was feeling a bit faint.


I was also given a kit containing a plastic breathing apparatus I will apparently need in the hospital to breathe into from time to time to give my lungs a workout, especially before I start with physiotherapy. Plus, two packages of a special kind of soap for showering with on the morning of the operation, and a booklet basically repeating the info from the plenary session, info re what to bring to the hospital, like robe and firm, rubber-soled slippers. We were told that although the normal hospital stay is 5-7 days, we could stay longer if necessary. Then, if we’re still not ready to go home, we can go to a Rehab hospital for an indefinite period.


One of the physiotherapists came in at the end and told us about the kind of exercises we’d be doing with him in the post-op period. He also showed us various devices that we’d be lent to help put on socks, pull on pants and so on when we can’t bend over to do so.  We were also told that, before our operation,  a CLSC worker would come to the house to assess the place in terms of ease of moving around with a walker. He or she would also loan us each a raised toilet with arms, a walker, crutches and any other equipment we might need.


Most amazing, this will not cost me a penny. It’s free. Or rather, my taxes pay for it. Any citizen of Canada, no matter how poor, gets the same treatment, automatically. The only cost to me is a daily rate, covered by my husband’s insurance, if I want a semi-private room instead of a room with four to six bed in it. Oh, and $2 a day if I want a private telephone line. And a daily rate if I want a tv. That seems very reasonable to me. And the  whole thing makes me feel very sorry for Americans, who often can’t afford HMOs, and are therefore often left uninsured. This operation apparently would cost me $16,000 if I was having it done here and wasn’t a Canadian. However, instead of worrying about such a cost and probably foregoing the operation altogether because of it, I can just focus on getting better. 

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Sunday, April 8, 2007

The original poem “Do not stand…”

Thanks to some people who wrote in, I have discovered the poet who wrote the poem that begins with the line above. It’s Mary Frye, and notice that the line at the start is ‘Do not stand’ rather than ‘Stand not at’. I don’t know how this got changed. Now I know why I couldn’t find anything much about it on line.  Here’s the original version:



(do not stand at my grave and weep)

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning’s hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

Mary Frye

Mary Frye
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Saturday, April 7, 2007

On Snow in April

Although it seems unusual to have snow in April, it obviously isn’t, since someone has already written a poem about it. This almost makes me feel better about the snow that fell two days ago.


                                                 April


‘Tis the noon of the spring-time, 
Yet never a bird In the wind-shaked elm or the maple is heard; 
For green meadow-grasses wide levels of snow, 
And blowing of drifts where the crocus should blow; 
Where wind-flower and violet, amber and white; 
On south-sloping brooksides should smile in the light, 
O’er the cold winter-beds of their late-waking roots 
The frosty flake eddies, the ice crystal shoots; 
And, longing for light, under wind-driven heaps, 
Round the boles of the pine-wood the ground-laurel creeps, 
Unkissed of the sunshine, unbaptized of showers, 
With buds scarcely swelled, which should burst into flowers!

-   John Greenleaf Whittier

 

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Thursday, April 5, 2007

“Stand not at my grave and weep”: A Rossetti poem?

I just heard this sung on CBC, but they called it ‘Remember’. If you look up ‘Remember’, however, you’ll see that it is not this one. I can’t find this one on line–except on someone’s blog (in red ink, for some reason) with no author’s name. Anyone know the name of this poem?

In any case, it is a wonderful sentiment, especially for a pagan like myself.

Stand not at my grave and weep

 I am not there, I do not sleep
 I am a thousand winds that blow 
I am the softly falling snow 
I am the gentle falling rain 
I am the fields of ripening grain 
I am the morning’s whispered hush 
I am the chaos of the rush 
I fly with the birds in gracefull flight 
I am the starshine in the night 
I am the flowers full in bloom 
I am the peace of a quiet room 
Stand not at my grave and cry 
I am not there
 I did not die. 

Here’s another version found on line. Are people just adding new lines? I wish I could find the original.

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
And I have seen my child grow.
I’m in the autumn’s gentle rain,
The glow of sunlight on ripened grain.
When you awaken in morning’s hush,
I am the sweet, uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the first star that shines by night,
I am the song within your heart;
You’re what’s left- my living part.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
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